Complications: Is Love Ever Enough?

Hey

I know it's been a while, but I couldm't post anything due to Ramadan. I also fell sick before the fasting and now I'm lepacious lol. My school also deemed it fit to block blogspot due to one old drama that erupted from a babe's blog.

So I've been through a lot this past month, and as usual, I've had a lot of drama. I have so much to talk about, but for now, I'll start small. I'm going to talk about complications. People just say "it's complicated", even when things are simple. I see a complication as the events or situations that prevent things from being simple or straight forward. Take for example, A likes B, B likes A back; that means that they should hook up right? Wrong. Things are never that smooth, and that's a fact of life. Here are some of the things I've seen that cause complications:

1) Location: Most times, both people need to be in the same place to have something concrete. Distance is the one of the biggest wreckers of beautiful relationships. Speaking from my experience, Long-Distance relationships never work. The only LD relationship I was in took a toll on me and her, as we had a lot of pointless fights; It was after the relationship ended that i realized that we fought sometimes simply because we missed each other. For something strong and concrete, it's best to be in the same place.

2) Peer Pressure: Everyone has friends, and the general concept of friends is that they're supposed to have your back and give you good advice for your well-being. A lot of people act according to their friends' opinions; that would be all well and good, if their friends' advice were always without selfish interest. No offence to anybody, but I know of a lot of friends who are all interested in the same guy/ babe. Envy makes a lot of people do wicked things. On the flip-side, a good friend's advice could save you from one big heartbreak.

3) Personality issues: A lot of people are difficult to woo, as they might have personality quirks that prevent a straightforward hookup. For example, some people are insecure, so they try their hardest to not submit to the people they like. Some just have trust issues (me, for example), so it takes a long time to give in. Some are flirts, and therefore don't want anything concrete; they just like the attention, getting all the TLC, but not giving anything back. Some are confused, and don't want to make a choice (this one can drag on forever, lol). Most people however, are just afraid. Fear can be linked to all the above reasons. People are afraid that it wouldn't work, or that the other person would be bored with them, or that the significant other would find someone better. Some people don't even know what they're afraid of (usually, those are the insecure and confused ones). Some people are also purely selfish. This is another of the largest causes of complications, along with distance.

4) Timing: This particular issue was one i underestimated until it happened to me. Sometimes, everything would be perfect, but the timing would be horribly wrong. Usually, it's nobody's fault, but we can blame it on destiny or fate lol. Take for example, being in your final semester in university, then you meet the perfect person for you. To make it worse, the person is a freshman, first semester student. Sometimes, people also feel that the time they'd spend with the people they love wouldn't be enough (asin, the relationship's days are numbered), so they don't believe that going for it is worth it.

5) Objectives/ Perspectives: Just because two people love each other doesn't mean that they'd necessarily want the same thing. I'll use myself as an example here. I don't just enter relationships, plus I'm more of a "runs" guy. Me and the babe would definitely bump heads if she wants a relationship, and that doesn't mean that we don't love each other. Guys can also be very greedy; they might have a main babe they love, but they still want to sleep around. The biggest irony is that they'd never let that main babe go.

6) Compatibility: Both people have to be able to get along, otherwise, there'll be constant fights. It's a common saying that opposites attract, but sometimes, people could behave in a strikingly similar way. If your personalities don't match, then it'll never work. A good description of such complications is Eminem's song, "Love the way you lie". Such people have a whirlwind romance that would end up destroying them both.
It doesn't end there; there should be equal acknowledgment of both people's efforts and emotions. If one person feels cheated, the relationship ends up being unbalanced and one-sided. Nobody likes feeling that way.

Despite all these, I believe that if both people are united in their determination to make their relationship work, then it's still possible to have that relationship. Love is a wonderful and terrible emotion, but it's worth it whenever you meet someone else who feels the same way. If love was truly enough, there'd never be any breakups, and there'd me more long-lasting marriages. It's just that it's never enough, especially in this time and day. Have love in your heart, but use your brain some more and try to plan ahead. That way, you walk into love, not fall in love. I wish you all, good luck and happiness in your endeavors.

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